It’s coming along well
Remember I mentioned a while ago about buying a flat with my boyfriend? I have a little update for you. In short the process is something like: find a suitable place, apply for mortgage, get the mortgage approved, instruct solicitor to do all relevant information gathering (including environment searches and history about the property), draft contract, exchange contract and completion date (i.e get the keys!). It’s an extremely long process which can take around 2-5 months (apparently it’s only this long in the UK).
Park near the flat
We’re actually a quarter way through it. We found a place a few weeks back and we’ve been busy sorting out the mortgage and reading all the information the solicitor has sent us. We’ve got the mortgage approved and basically just waiting for the solicitor to do all the relevant legal work. I don’t have an idea when the completion date will be but I can say that I’ll be move out of my parents this half of the year, how exciting.
Living with my parents is okay, but can be very annoying at times. At the end of the day, I still don’t have complete freedom and independence. I lived in university dorms and with friends during university which gave me an insight into live without parents. I loved it! The only problem I had was not having my own kitchen, bathroom etc which off course will come with my own flat. The bigger problem came when I moved back home after university. It was just too hard to go back to the life I had three years ago. It took a very very long time for my parents to realise I’ve grown up and I’m not that little girl I was three years ago. Just imagine going from total freedom to no freedom…caused a lot of arguments around the house.
Glad to hear that you’ve found a place! There seems to be a ton of paperwork – which I never asked about when my parents were buying the house that they live in now. In the US, I believe that 2 months is extremely fast, and 5 months is about normal.
As an university student now, I can’t see myself moving back in with my parents – I like living on my own. My parents lived with my dad’s parents after they were married! I know that that is tradition for Chinese people, but it is something I cannot imagine doing.
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Oh gosh I can never live with any parents at all, let alone after getting married. That was very traditional but live isn’t like that anymore. Young people want their own space. I can’t wait to move out, I really can’t take another year of living with my parents.
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It’s nice to see you’re getting closer to living in your own flat!
I can’t wait to see how it looks like and how fix it up.
Oh gosh, I know how you feel concerning living with your parents. I am almost at wits’ end just living with them. My lifestyle and their lifestyle clashes and plus, I’m getting tired of living in the same house with my very older brother who doesn’t help do anything but eat and sleep. -__-
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I can’t wait to see the results from your flat! It’s always so nice to have your own place :3
It’s always a trouble once you move back in with your parents, siblings or whatever. I think I’d be annoyed if I did that xD Living on your own is so much better
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I guess almost all parents are like that? Mine is also pretty much like yours. I know how annoying it can get when they don’t see how we’ve grown up, especially knowing that we’re girls… and they always treat us like little girls. /sigh. Maybe freedom and independence are what we’re searching for after all…
although the idea of sharing bathroom etc may not be very…pleasant.
Living in university dorms can be pretty fun! Too bad it only happens in foreign countries… I wish I can experience living in a uni dorm someday!
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There’s dorms with ensuite bathroom. We had some ensuite dorms (at a higher cost off course). Sharing bathroom isn’t so bad since they’re all single sex. Off course it’s not as nice as having your own bathroom but it’s all worth it to live without parents.
You can’t live in university dorm in your country? Where are you from?
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Yay! You found a place with your boyfriend ♥ That’s sweet! Move in soon and woah — good luck with the paper work!
Heh, I understand what you mean about your parents. trust me, I’ve been there — well, I’m still going there lol. It’s tough, especially with all the screaming and whatnot but Idk, when i get older… I’d find it hard to move away from them.
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Hey Pauline! does this mean you’re coming back to the blogging world soon?
Moving away from my parents is going to be easy for me because I lived out during university. Either way, I can’t wait!
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Hi Krystal!
I am glad to hear that you have found a place that you both like. And it is near a park! I feel like that is a BIG plus! Anyway, I hope that the process doesn’t seem dragging for you and that you will soon be able to move in
As for freedom… I totally understand you. I can’t imagine moving back home again. I mean I love my parents and the fact that my mom would be spoiling me all day long but I would not have the freedom I have acquired here. I would certainly have a curfew again (at 23 that’s a bit ridiculous) and my dad would always be after me. No thanks. I live right now with two roommates but I am already getting tired of sharing my space with people. I am hoping that in 4-5 months I will be able to get my own apartment and live on my own. But we will see. First thing first, I need to get accepted into a Graduate School program.
Anyway, all my best wishes for you and your boyfriend!
xoxo
PS: I now accept guest bloggers so if you’d be interested in guest blogging one day, I’d be flattered to have you over!
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So glad to hear that everything is going well for both of you.
I hope the move in isn’t too much hassle. I have to say, dealing with legal stuff does not sound fun.
Looks like you’re going to be living in a nice area as well. I still live with my parents and I don’t dorm or anything – too expensive and my parents don’t mind me staying home for as long as I need to. Yes, it’s annoying, but in the end I’ll be honest – I’d prefer to fork out money on a house. I know I’m definitely not going to live in a flat for the rest of my life, or even for a long time, so I imagine skipping that step in between and saving myself moving twice, and just going for the big when I’m ready.
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We’re only planning to live in the flat for a few years. Waiting for a house is far too long for me, I can’t live another year at home. Plus property is super expensive in my area as I live so close to the capital city.
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I feel that i can’t live with my parents many of the times but then I’ve never really had the experience of living without them and my sister…. and in india you don’t really have to to the university and live there for studies…..and Ya that living with parents-in-law is the tradition inIndia too…but my parents lived alone…ie a nuclear family….
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