An ever changing life
It’s almost the end of 2011, can you believe that? I can’t believe how much has changed since 2010.
Last year I made a life changing decision. I ended the relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years. 7 years is a long time, it’s was most of my teenage and young adult years. In those 7 years we watched each other grow from kids to adults, pass the years of high school and university and starting our first job. In those 7 years we had happy times and sad times. Towards the end of the 7 years we spent more time arguing and being unhappy than smiling. I knew it was the end. We tried to fix it and make it better but it just wasn’t working and the end came.
We haven’t spoke since I started my new relationship and he started his. I look back and think “wow I was with that guy for 7 years, now I don’t really know him anymore”. I still remember the existence of him, but the small details just seems to be fading.
It’s funny isn’t it? Spend 7 years with someone and think you know every little detail and remember everything can just all go in a year.
You must wonder if I miss it? Well no because life has changed. I found my new life, one where I’m happy everyday. The life with my current boyfriend is just amazing and so different. Well for starters, we don’t argue and it’s always full of smiles and laughters. It doesn’t mean I regret those 7 years, despite the arguments it was a nice 7 years.
I’m sure my ex’s new life with his new girlfriend is the same as well. Although he must have been in a lot of pain from the break up but I’m sure since he started his new relationship he’s been having an amazing life. I am glad that he has found someone else, someone that will treat him right, someone that he won’t argue with all the time, someone he is happy with.
Sometimes we have to take those little steps to make that change. The change can be hard but the result can be extraordinary. If I didn’t make that step last year, we may both still be unhappy.
I learnt something from this though. I learnt that we should never be with someone because we’re scared of a change or being alone. The change is not the end, it’s the beginning of something amazing.
I wonder how different life will be by Christmas 2012. Would I have move out from my parents into my own place? Would I still be working in the same place? Would I still be in the same country?
This is something I can relate to. Not in terms of parting with someone, but life changing so dramatically. Mine changed dramatically this year as well! Life is amazing. Every year can be so different. I always wonder how I’ll end up, and when I get old what kind of stories I’ll be able to tell my grandchildren.
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I think about that too, I sometimes wonder what I’ll tell my grandchildren.
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That is a lot of change in one year, and I’m glad that things are working out for you, your boyfriend, and your ex. Sometimes, people just don’t work out together, but seven years is definitely a long time!
The most change that I have experienced happened when I moved out and went to college on the other side of the country. I don’t know how moving across the country is taken in the UK, but it’s a big deal in the US since the US is huge. We’re both in the stage of our life where a lot of changes just happen – and it’ll probably keep happening until we settle down and have kids. And then a whole new set of trials will be before us.
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It’s not that of a big deal here to move around the country as it’s so small. I can see that it’s a big deal in the USA, since it can be a few hour flight journey. Moving so far is exciting and scary at the same time. You must be nervous? Hope that all goes well for you.
Oh gosh kids…that’s crazily life changing.
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My life changed so much last year (I graduated, moved out of parents house etc.) This year hasn’t been AS life changing but it sure has been an interesting one. This year has been more about meeting new people. I guess only future will tell if this year was “life changing” for me, because..well..I guess it kind of has been since I’ve changed my way of thinking – about what I can and can’t do in the future.
2012 WILL be life changing for me. Because of the plans that I have for it. So, a year from now. I think I’ve grown a lot as a person.
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Change is often a good thing. Sometimes we just have to let go of things and most of the time it’s for the better. Sometimes we have no option but to change and sometimes that will give us a better outcome. Even with bad things on their way sometimes dealing with it instead of crying and hanging on is the only way to be happy again, and most of us do want to be happy so we decide to accept things and deal.
I’m glad you have moved on, not many people move on so quickly but it seemed like it was for the better for both of you. Whether you ended on bad terms or not, being together wasn’t on the cards for you, and it’s good that you took that change that you believed would be a good one.
When something ends it usually does mean the start of something else.
I know you can’t tell what will happen in a years time but I’m sure you’ll reflect and see all the changes as positively as you can too. 
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Life does change constantly and often in extraordinary ways that we can’t even imagine. I know that because everytime I look back at my past, I found myself taking paths that I never thought I would. I mean, if a person is to go back to the past and tell the old me about my life now, the old me would probably laugh it off.
Ending a relationship always comes with pain, especially when you’ve been together for so long. But if the breakup is inevitable, then it’s better to split than staying together because it just hurts both parties. Glad you’re brave and strong to make the choice and you’ve been rewarded with a better life.
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“I learnt that we should never be with someone because we’re scared of a change or being alone.” This is exactly one of my sister’s problem with her “relationship” right now. She had called me two days ago about what she should do I told her straight – like, don’t be with this guy if he’s treating you like crap and when neither of you two are happy. She’s tried to “fix” this many times, but everything always went down the drain. :T I told her that she needs to end it soon because 2012 is coming and someone like him shouldn’t be in her life in the new year. She told me how she was very independent before getting into a relationship and she questioned me if she could do it again and I’m like YES! YOU CAN! xD She’s scared of being alone and not having him there, but then again, she is tired of all his bull crap. I’m thinking, this is not what “in love” is supposed to be…
Anyhow, yes, 2012 is literally around the corner. Next thing you know, I’ll have a new calendar up (if I can find one…). Next year, I’ll be finishing up my two years at my jr./community college. I’m so pumped because I want to get out of their pronto.
But transferring to what state college is the ultimate question here!
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OMG. Just noticed I put “their” instead of “there.” UGH. >_<
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Hopefully your sister will find the courage to face reality, face being alone for a while and face not having him there. It is really hard sometimes, because you’re just so use to it that changing it is painful. With your support and support from your family she’ll get through it and see the light at the end of the tunnel.
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Change is often a blessing in disguise. At the moment of the curve, we find difficulty and we shed a few tears, but eventually, we move on and we grow. Happy to know that you and your former boyfriend is now happy, leading separate lives. Perhaps one day, if God wills it, you will be given the opportunity to talk and maybe be friends.
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I have this feeling that soon when I’m older, I’m going to feel and understand this.
Perhaps it’s funny. I thought that every single day I spent with my friends, I have to jot it down somewhere to remember or read it in the future. I guess it is funny now. Since I own a new blog, I deleted all of my blog posts and it seems that I have no interest to look back at the old me and my friends now. Well, perhaps, much much later when I’m old.
I should not be afraid to change right now then :B.
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Wow, ending a 7 year relationship takes a lot of courage. Props to you and I’m glad you are happy now. My boyfriend and I are coming up on our 8 years right now… I can’t even imagine doing that!
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Yeah it was a hard decision as 7 years is a long time, but we can’t let the words “7 years” overwhelm the actual situation.
You’re getting marriage soon am I right?
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