An old fashion mum
I haven’t blogged for over a week. I’ve been pretty busy lately. I’ve been going to the gym more regularly (it’s getting close to my Hong Kong holiday and I really need to tone up) and spent every weekend for the last month at my boyfriend’s place.
My mum is starting to get a bit annoyed that I’m not spending weekends at home. In her mind she still thinks girls shouldn’t be staying around their boyfriends house! She reckons my boyfriends parents will think bad of me (e.g. think I’m cheap and easy).
We’re not in ancient China anymore. It’s the 21st century.
Men and women are very equal in relationships.
I’m staying round his on weekends because he lives over an hr drive. It just isn’t feasible to be driving back and for the whole weekend.
His parents don’t mind. They are very open and understanding.
I tried to explain that to my mum but she just don’t want to believe it. Just because she’s stubborn and old fashion, it doesn’t mean that other parents are the same.
I really can’t wait to move out. I don’t mind my parents really, but I prefer the independence and freedom. I don’t like reporting to someone everyday.
Living out won’t be difficult for me since I lived out during my three years at university. It will be a little bit more difficult with a full time job but it’s a step everyone has to take.
I haven’t moved out yet because I don’t want to rent a place. I want to buy a house since you won’t get anything out of renting. If I rent I’ll never to be able to save up enough money for a mortgage deposit.
I’m hoping I’ll be able to move out by summer or Christmas next year.
yea, old fashion moms can be hard. My mom would freak out and panic if i’m not home and is staying at a boy’s place… =__=”" I’m stuck here.. wish I can freely move out and be independent, but that’ll just break my mom’s heart.
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Let’s hope my parents don’t see this comment, but I definitely feel the exact same way. Except that I’m at university and my parents don’t approve of all of my actions. To me, I disapprove of being old fashioned for the sake of being old fashioned. If you’re old fashioned because being old fashioned is better for you, then go for it. But sometimes I find that older people aren’t quite as open minded, or don’t understand that the world has changed since they were young.
I hope that you’ll have enough money saved up for the down payment! That sounds like a super-awesome really big deal!
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My mom is equally old fashioned. I don’t know if this is an Asian trait or mothers are simply like that. My mother won’t let me hang out with my girl friends, let alone spending time with my boyfriend. I want to move out and get a place of my own one day, but that means I need to start saving up now.
It’s good that your boyfriend’s parents are understanding. At least you won’t have a problem trying to explain anything to them.
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I think it’s just Asian parents. I find that my western friend’s parents aren’t like that at all.
My mum is okay, but just small things really gets on my nerves.
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I feel your pain. My mum’s the same, she doesn’t know that I’ve been going to James’s house. She thinks that his mum will get the wrong impression and think I’m cheap or some other stupid crap. I actually feel passionately about this; both our mums are pretty ridiculous. We are definitely not living in the 1800s and times honestly have changed. I don’t know why our mums have such views about boys. My mum doesn’t seem to take my word that James’s mum is lovely and has no problem with me; in fact she quite likes me.
I wish I could move out but I don’t have enough money and I guess, to be honest, I’m not really ready to. I hope you can save up enough money for a place soon!
I don’t think I can live without the internet, but I’ve had some people tell me that they’ve lived alright when their internet has died, and they never really felt the need to check things or go online. It was something we were discussing in class. I do alright without the internet but in my spare time I know I just randomly browse…
I guess they produced a lot of those books, so they could afford to sell them so cheaply. They must have been made in bulk.
We have readings for university which are usually related to the lecture so it helps to read them beforehand. Some of our lecturers don’t use slides so we never got them, or they were really vague in the slides – I guess they did that to stop people skipping class. XD
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Haha I’m glad my mum is so much more relaxed in that sense. In fact, shes more happy to have my boyfriend around our house cos then we’re right under her nose instead, haha.
And i swear – I’ve just read 3 blog posts in a row about people going to the gym! Someone pay for my membership, gah! xD
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I know what you mean, my parents are like that always up tight and annoying. It’s good that his parents don’t think bad of you. Good luck with moving out and all. I totally agree that there’s no point in renting, just save up for a house! :3
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I hear you on the independence. And my mom seems a lot like yours.
I live with my grandmother. I’m also two weeks away from being twenty; I think she’s mostly just having separational issues. Don’t let what your mom says bother you too much. And good luck with moving out! (:
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Ohhhh Hong Kong holiday?! -so jealous-
Aren’t you 22? You should be allowed to live with your boyfriend then. Pfft what’s with Asian parents thinking living together = being improper? It’s quite annoying, they should learn to get with the modern times. My mom is still old fashioned though.
You’re right that renting doesn’t give you anything. I’d love to move out though but I don’t have a real job so that will be years off for me. I guess I’m stuck with my parents for the next 4 years.
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