Guy (or girl) Problems
Guy problems are always annoying, especially if it’s between two guys. Two guys liking one girl, then that girl have to choose which one. Why can’t that girl just have both? Sounds a little like Twilight Saga (if you have read Twilight, you’ll know what I mean).
So yeah, I’m in a situation where I’m that girl and there’s two guys involved. Both are great guys, how do I know which one is the right one? One of them is my 7 year boyfriend! We’ve been together since I was 15 years old (on & off a few times). I was 15 years old back then, I can barely remember it now. I was 15…did I really know what I was doing?
I recently met someone, he’s extremely cute and we get along well. We’ve been good friends and still is. But I just can’t help having feelings for him because I’ve been attracted to him for a while. How do I know if he’s boyfriend material or he doesn’t feel the same way?
Is it normal to have feelings for another person while with someone? Would it be worth giving up a 7 years relationship for a random guy? Am I only here because it’s been 7 years and sounds like a waste to give up now?
My whole world is involved around him now, we have so many friends together, we do a lot together, my parents approve of him. If I give up, I’m not just giving up him, but the current world I’m in.
I’ve only ever had one boyfriend (my current one) so not experienced with guys at all…I have no idea what I’m doing. It does make me feel a little like I’m trapped inside this little well and I have no idea what’s outside of it.
Sometimes I wish I didn’t get into such a long term serious relationship when I was so young. Maybe I should have waited till I was a bit older. At least I would have experienced enough to know what to look for in a guy and I’ll know what type of guy is right for me.
7 years is a long time, and all good relationships have to be worked through. Do you see you and your BF in the future together? Have you considered you may just be bored with him, and this other guy is exciting because he is new?
Flipping the spectrum, you’re young. Maybe too young to be in a long term relationship? You have one life. However, you don’t even know if this guy likes you…so…
Either way, you need to tell your BF about what you’re feeling. Relationships are abot honesty, and if you can’t be that with him, then you have no business being with him.
Team Jacob. <3
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Wow, 7 years is a LONG time, especially since it started when you’re 15. That’s why I’m not surprised that you’re having feelings for another guy while in a relationship, but you need to figure out if you only like the new guy because you just want something new, or if you can actually see a future between you guys.
I think it’s best if you talk to your boyfriend, not about the new guy of course, but about what he sees in the future for the two of you. But I don’t think you should ever stay with anyone if the feelings aren’t there and only because you’re used to it. It won’t be fair to you or the guy.
Anyways, hope everything works out
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Well that’s tricky!
The fact that you’ve been in a relationship with your boyfriend for 7 years is great, because few people get to stay this long with someone. But then again, if he is the only boy you’ve ever been with then, you probably got used to him, like one would get used to have a dog around, or a parents or a brother. In a long term we just stop thinking of them as not being there as they are part of our routine life.
But what if there is more out there for you? What if once you start going out with other people you realize that you haven’t lived to your full potential and that you don’t know yourself at all? I am not saying to go and throw your 7 years through the window, no.
The decision weather you want to give the new boy a shot or remain in your world with your current boyfriend is up to you. But the fact that you are wondering if there is more, maybe means that you still have unanswered questions to your happiness. And of course if you ignore that little voice, maybe one day you will wake up in regret for not trying to step out of the box? I don’t know, it’s really complicated. The best thing would be to talk to your boyfriend, best friend, parents? and try to see what is the best for you. But remember: only you can make the right choice for yourself as at the end of the day, it will be only you and your actions left.
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Aawww, I can’t help you with this because I have no experience of this kind of relationship
But YES, a 7 year relationship!!! I would think it’s such a pity to let go of such a relationship that has lasted so long.
I don’t have much experience with guys so I can’t advice you on this
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Firstly, Congratulations on the 7 years with your boyfriend. It’s honestly is rare to be with someone for so long especially at such a young age.
Going on an off won’t be a surprise afterall you’re both i believe was growing up at the time situations change and it takes time to adapt. Relationships will change.
I personally don’t believe anyone in the right mind regardless how old you were are are now will stay with someone for 7 years if you don’t love them.
Just because you started young it doesn’t mean you never grew up and never changed, you just changed along with someone there rather than alone. Experience you’ve gained might be something someone will never experience perhaps people that never had been dating for so long would ever understand what you and your boyfriend have been through to still be together now.
Finding another guy attractive is normal… it’s called animal instinct. it will happen from time to time and without a doubt it might even make you doubt your current relationship.
Cherish what you have… the experience you’ve gained with him is priceless and hard to achieve and i believe after all you been through with him it’s out weighs anything else in this world.
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